Letters of Life

Markers: How Creating Starting/Ending Points Can Define Your Days

Giving Facebook the aboutface

Eversince I started on a 40-day abstinence from Facebook (yes, I am a Facebookaholic), the speed at which real-life events have crowded in and overtaken me has caught me unawares.

I intentionally fell off the Facebook map because the virtual life was getting its hooks into me and making me more of a virtual person than a real one.

It’s Day 20? now. . . I’ve lost track, which is a good thing, and the past three weeks have accelerated beyond belief.

Since 20 days ago, i have added radio talkshow host to my jack-of-all-trades portfolio [which includes, but is not limited to, short-order cook, driver, accounts clerk, clinic manager (haha!), blogger, Agony Aunt, stylist, and musician (HAHAHA)].

Other projects include stuff for Easter and a new styling project.

Three good friends came back—I definitely missed them when they were away—and I’m so glad all three came back within *days* of each other. How awesome is that?

I do wonder if not getting off Facebook would have made any difference. Just because you give up something doesn’t mean that life stops. But I like to think it’s goes deeper than that. But more of that later.

As the post title suggests, marking your days this way, declaring a season of something significant—in this case, giving up something which accounted for a lot of headspace—has some benefits and effects which a pile of ordinary days can’t quite match.

And so, this list.


1. You’re more aware of time passing.

Which means time slows down. Part of the reason is that it’s a newish experience, and so the brain takes a little longer to clock the  experience into memory. The time taken to sear the new experience/event into your mind—memorable events like the first day at school, the first day at work, the first year in college—in effect consciously marks the passage of time.


2. You get to ponder.

Pondering is good. You aren’t the sort of person who sails through life letting things “drop on you,” right? Except for your ability to accessorize, that would put you almost on the level of our four-footed friends. The art of pondering lends significance to the coincidences of life, the miracles in the morning, the grace under which we all live.

And so events stand out in relief, especially when you’re fighting back the urge to do the very thing you are trying to give up or stop thinking about.


3. Your journey takes you on the road less travelled.

Making the sacrifice without keeping my heart’s eyes and ears open would be a dreadful waste. I am learning that sacrifice is but a small step towards surrender, which is the total giving up of the self, in this case, to God.


4. You are in for a bigger revelation.

There are bigger lessons to learn in the remaining 20 days I have left. It’s no longer just about losing my Facebookaholic tendencies behind. It’s about learning to let go.

It’s about being real.





What are your thoughts on this? What has been hardest for you to give up? Is it gone totally today? What does sacrifice mean to you?

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